We live in a pretty fucked up world. It’s a good kind of fucked up and a really really bad kind of fucked up. We live our lives within a 5 inch screen and start to go through withdrawal when we are disconnected from our devices. Everyone wants to be an influencer on Instagram or Snapchat. Everyone wants to start their own personal brand or be a “life coach” or “lifestyle entrepreneur”. For the most part we live our lives as sheep. We live vicariously through those on social media and wish we had what they did, drove the cars they drove and fucked the chicks they fucked. Take advantage of the herd mentality and make yourself stick out from the crowd.
Think For Yourself
This is probably the most important part of standing out from the crowd. Learning to think for yourself can be challenging and sometimes scary. You’ve been molded your whole life to believe what you’ve been told. Not to mention all the bullshit and propaganda that goes down in everyday life to try to mold our beliefs. To live in the “norm”. You’ve been told whats socially acceptable and what’s not. I think thats bullshit. There are obvious moral and legal boundaries that any sane human has and will not cross, thinking for yourself doesn’t mean you do whatever the fuck you want. Thinking for yourself means confirming what you already know to be true. You are entitled to your own opinion, sometimes it will be right and sometimes it will be wrong. When you are wrong you have to be willing to accept the facts and move on. When you are right you should be willing to die for what you believe in. We live in a world where everyone tries to think alike, dress alike and act alike. It feels like a scene out of Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. Thinking for yourself proves you are an individual, it also shows confidence in who you are and what you believe in. It is a very attractive quality when not blown our of proportion and makes you unique and unforgettable.
Too many people are scared to take risks. They are afraid of failure and their ego getting hurt and it stops them from ever living at all. Stop being afraid of what your friends will think if you fail. Stop worrying that your family will think less of you if you’re not a success. Stop protecting your ego from taking a punch in the face and being brought back to reality. When John Mayer was in high school everyone laughed at him for wanting to become a musician. His family thought he was crazy, his guidance counselor told him it wasn’t possible and no one thought he would amount to anything as a musician except one person: himself. He knew he was going to be a phenomenal musician and went all in. He even went as far as to put in his Fairfield High School yearbook “I know that school never did anything for me. It never made sense to me. I knew when I was 13 what I wanted to do- to be a musician.” Stop letting other people tell you what to do and what not to do. Anyone who tells you to play it safe is not chasing their dreams, and that’s exactly why they want to stop you from chasing yours. Take massive risks and see massive results. Nothing good has come from playing it safe.
Have Good Manners
It’s pretty sad that this is something that will help you stand out but it’s reality. Having good manners is a sure way to stand out from any crowd. The other day I was out shopping and held the door open for some lady, she was appalled. She told me she hadn’t had a door held open for her in years and that my mother raised me right. Too many common courtesies are becoming far too uncommon. Use your please and thank you’s. When someone does something for you no matter how little emphasize your thanks for them. Shake someones hand when you meet them. Look people in the eyes when you talk to them and don’t hold a conversation with someone while you are looking at your phone. Common courtesies go a long way and definitely will help you stand out in todays crowd.
There are a million ways to fit in with the crowd. I don’t care if you don’t use these 3 ways to make yourself stand out in a world of autonomous fucks, I do care that you stand out and be unique in some way. Your life will be better because of it.