You Must Have A Massive Goal That You Will Work On Everyday.
The first law in being an influencer is the most important. Without it, you can do all of the following and still not attain influence. To be influential you MUST have a massive goal that you are willing to spend the rest of your life working your ass off for every single day. Make your goal so big that everyone thinks you are crazy. The most influential people are the one’s with the dreams that normal people consider impossible. Elon Musk wants to colonize Mars. Gary Vee wants to own the New York Jets. Jeff Bezos wanted to create a store that sells EVERYTHING. The bigger the dream, the bigger your influence. Michaelangelo once said “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” These are wise words from a VERY influential man who we continue to talk about hundreds of years after his death. Know your end game. Ambition is priceless and a very attractive trait for anyone to have. It will give you meaning, some passion and an identity. If you run into someone and their goal is to build the biggest building in NYC I will guarantee that you’ll never forget about them. You will probably even support their mission and be inspired by their ambition. Don’t allow yourself to fall in the trap of mediocrity. Too many people spend their entire lives chasing small goals, making small money and having a small level of influence. Stand out from the crowd. Find your reason for waking up everyday and work your ass off to achieve it.
Dress Well, Groom Well, Smell Great.
“Dress for success” is so fucking dead and Silicon Valley God’s with billions of dollars who wear t-shirts and jeans have made everyone think they can get away with rolling out of bed and throwing on whatever they please. Unfortunately you will probably never create a social media network or app that is valued at $30 billion whilst losing hundreds of millions of dollars a year and never posting a profit. “Dressing well is a form of good manners” – Tom Ford. You need to take care of yourself for yourself and for others. Your body is a temple, it’s your choice to worship it or trash it but any successful and influential person will choose the former and not the latter. Taking care of yourself will boost your self-esteem and confidence. There are plenty of studies that show those who dress well are more well respected, seen as more authoritative and more influential than peers who dress like smucks or look like they just rolled out of bed. Taking care of yourself is for others as well. Imagine a homeless person. Chances are you imagine a smelly bum with shaggy hair and torn clothing. Not a clean shaven, Burberry smelling stud in a suit. Perception is everything. Look at Tai Lopez. He faked it like he was successful then got what he pretended to be. I’m not telling you to wear a suit everywhere you go like Barney Stinson. I am telling you to make sure you look presentable. Have good hygiene. Workout and take care of your health. Cleanliness is next to Godliness. Your body is your temple. Treat it well.
Control Your Emotions
The easiest way to lose respect or influence over someone is to let your emotions get the best of you. We all know that person who cries constantly. The person who flips the fuck out over the most petty annoyance. They are unstable. And a pain in the ass. Don’t be butt hurt. Take everything with a grain or 50 of salt. Losing your balance shows you have no clue who you are, what you stand for or what to do. Remain calm in every situation. James Bond wasn’t cool because he was an emotional wreck and flipping shit on everyone who looked at his girlfriend wrong. He was cool because even after being abducted or drugged he remained in control of his actions and kept his identity secure. People will respect you for keeping your emotions in check. It’s hard but its a staple for being a well-rounded influencer.